Man Confesses To Wife That He Lives A Double Life With First Love In His Dreams

Tilesh Bo January 22, 2021

It's fairly common and perfectly normal to dream about past relationships once in a while. But what about someone who uses their lucid dreaming abilities to be in a full-blown relationship with an ex in their sleep? That's exactly what one guy did for years. Redditor u/intrepidreporter9 sought advice from r/relationships after confessing to his wife that he'd been living a double life in his dreams. Those replying in the thread had nothing encouraging to say—most couldn't blame his wife for wanting a divorce because he was guilty of emotional cheating. Have a look at the thread and judge for yourself. If you cheat in your dreams, do you cheat in real life?

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Text - r/relationships u/intrepidreporter9 · 2d My M 31) Wife (28) Wants A Divorce Because I Live An Entirely Different Reality With My First Love (F29) In My Dreams Relationships

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Text - I (M 31) have been with my wife (F28) for three years. We had a short engagement, married quick, and have a perfectly ordinary existence. I love her, she loves me. We do taxes, house work. Watch movies. All the normal things. No physical cheating on either side as far as I know. But here's the thing. I am a lucid dreamer, which means I can, to an extent, control my dreams which is something I find cool as it allows me to go on adventures while asleep. It also makes scary dreams not so bad

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Text - I was crushed but moved on and we've spoke sporadically over the years though we never crossed any lines. I will admit that I've kept up with her own social media a bit but nothing stalkerish. Well a year ago she announced she was getting married and I experienced a resurgence of feelings for her, though I never acted on them or told her. That same night, I dreamed about her for the first time in years. In the dream she showed up at my door and asked me if I wanted to get coffee. I said y

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Text - Since then l've dreamed about her several times a week and l've practiced going lucid so l've been able to control the outcome more times than not. We've lived a whole life together over the past year. Everything from dates to a trip to Paris together which we visited while in college. We even re walked the same paths we did in real life. It got to the point I was looking forward to going to sleep to be with her. Fast forward to today, my wife told me she felt distant from me. And I start

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Text - So I confessed. About all of it. At first she that I was joking but when she realized I was serious, she accused me of cheating on her and told her mom and sisters who are calling me a cheating weirdo. She even threatened to tell my ex so she'll know what a "fucking loser" I am. Now I get that it's not anything a woman would want to hear, but it's not like I physically cheated. I don't want to lose my wife, but I don't think she can forgive me for this. Tl:dr: I live an entirely separate

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Text - soulangelic · 2d Yeah, no, I think this might be a lost cause. I would certainly consider this cheating, and think that it does indeed warrant a divorce. You clearly don't "really love her"-at least, not as much as you love your ex. Reply 103 Opal-Star-Dust · 2d His "love" for his ex looks more like obsession. As a person that has exs and I just happened to get engaged 6 months ago.... l'd be so creeper out to find out an old flame was this hung up on me still. 1 64 ...

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Text - intrepidreporter9 %· 2d I don't think you can put an expiration date on love. Just because you're living different lives doesn't mean the love dies. I do understand however that my feelings for my ex are extreme and my path towards processing them were extreme. But it's not an obsession, It's love. I've never intrudes on my ex's life or crossed any boundaries nor will I, even though I think my marriage is ending. 1 -67

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Text - jimmyjrdanceparty · 2d But it's not an obsession, It's love. My dude, you are creating a fantasy life with someone you haven't really known for almost 10 years. That is obsession. This person was a teenager the entire time you knew her. You are in love with the memory of her, not who she is now, and using her image as fodder for your elaborate fantasies is creepy and unhealthy. You need to speak to a therapist, because the way you're handling this will ruin any relationship you have in th

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Text - swirlyred · 2d This is so weird, I'm not surprised she wants a divorce. Reply 1 33 ... T.

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Text - Asleep-Row • 2d This is emotional cheating. You're more excited to spend time with you ex in dreams than with your actual wife. If your wife did this you would feel the same way she does. Are you willing to sacrifice your marriage for an ex who had moved on? Reply 28 ...

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